First of all you want to present the best image you can and that means hiring a professional photographer. Before you start talking to me about “expenses”, let’s stop the article right here and think about what it costs if you don’t do it. A professional photographer understands lighting, angles and how to make you look the best you possibly can be. It’s not about the technology of the photos – the iPhone 6 Plus has great technology – it’s about the art and experience.

If you’re okay with “good enough” then you can stop reading now but I’m into details and leaving nothing to chance – dating is like sales and the more leads you put into the funnel then there’s that much more chance that you will get more sales – it’s a numbers game. That professional might take your level of response from maybe 1 in 3 women responding to you, to 2 in 4, or 3 in 5 – and more women responding equals more dates and more chances for you to stumble upon Ms. Right.

What if you’re on the dating site for a year and you still haven’t found someone you like? The girls are okay that you’re seeing – nice even – but no connection. With more women contacting you might get to Ms. Right faster and end all that first and second date nonsense, not to mention the expense of taking them all out – $10 for coffee here, $25 for drinks there and a $65 dinner for women you might not see again can add up. Of course not! Why is that?

In online dating your object is to meet women in the real world as soon as you possibly can – you’re not there to be their internet penpal and get carpal tunnel answering 9,000,000 emails and chat requests, so don’t write a book – you need to fill out the basics but not cause her eyes to roll back in her head reading all your text. That’s it guys – no long text – no talking about what your deepest hopes, dreams and desires are – no laundry list of what you find appealing or not appealing.